Having your wedding without your affirming family
Our wedding day is suppose to be filled with joy & happiness! However, as queer folks, we will often experience a lack of support, hate or discrimination even from our own families. HOWEVER, it is still possible to create a meaningful and memorable celebration. Here are some tips to help you navigate this situation:
1. Surround yourself with supportive friends and chosen family: Reach out to friends and loved ones who are accepting and supportive of your relationship. They can provide emotional support and help you with the wedding planning process.
2. Communicate your boundaries: Clearly communicate your boundaries to your family members. Let them know what is important to you and what you expect from them during the wedding planning process. This can help set expectations and minimize potential conflicts.
3. Seek professional help: Consider hiring a wedding planner who is experienced in working with LGBTQ+ couples. They can provide guidance, offer support, and help you navigate any challenges that may arise.
4. Create a safe space: When choosing a venue, prioritize finding a location where you and your partner feel comfortable and safe. Look for inclusive venues that have a track record of supporting and celebrating diverse couples.
5. Personalize your ceremony: Tailor your wedding ceremony to reflect your values, beliefs, and love story. Incorporate elements that are meaningful to you as a couple, such as personalized vows, readings, or rituals.
6. Choose LGBTQ+-friendly vendors: Research and select vendors who are supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. This includes photographers, caterers, florists, and other wedding service providers. They will not only be more understanding of your needs but will also help create a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere.
7. Embrace your chosen family: Celebrate the love and support of your chosen family and friends who have been there for you throughout your journey. Surround yourself with people who love and accept you for who you are, and let them play a significant role in your wedding celebration.
8. Focus on love and joy: Remember that your wedding day is about celebrating your love and commitment to each other. Focus on the joyous moments, the love you share, and the future you are building together. Let that be the center of your attention and energy.
9. Consider counseling or therapy: If the lack of support from your family members becomes overwhelming, consider seeking counseling or therapy to help you navigate your emotions and cope with any challenges that may arise.
10. Practice self-care: Throughout the wedding planning process, prioritize self-care. Take breaks when needed, engage in activities that bring you joy, and seek support from your partner and chosen family. Taking care of your emotional well-being is essential during this time.
Remember, your wedding day is ultimately about celebrating your love and commitment to each other. While it may be disappointing not to have the support of affirming family members, focus on creating a day that authentically represents you as a couple and surrounds yourselves with the love and support of those who truly celebrate and embrace who you are.
Yours Truly,
Molly❤️
